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Middle Age? Not a Problem!

Kupenda Auset writes about being middle age and her desire for something new.

Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain. So God granted him what he requested. - 1 Chronicles 4:9-10 

I don’t mind telling you my age. I am almost 45. I have one daughter in college and one who is finishing up middle school.  I often mention them because I learn so much about myself from being their mother.

In fact, one day my middle-schooler came home and told me she’d been studying the developmental stages of life. She looked at me and said matter-of-factly:  “Mommy, you are middle age.”

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I’d kind of noticed that too.

Everything had begun to point to this truth. I don’t know the slang my children know. Sometimes I’ve never heard of the music artists they listen to and I’m always asking them to turn down the blaring radio. Among other things, I am just learning how to do the “wobble” and I am new to Twitter. 

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Like most parents, my adult life has centered on my children. I have known what day and time it is by their schedules, activities, and appointments. What I have needed from the grocery store, what I would prepare, and when I would eat hinged on them. Waking, sleeping, and leisure time has often taken place according to them. 

But now, in a few short years my younger daughter will be off to college, rendering me an “empty nester.”  I will then be considered free to do the things I want to do, to go where I want to go, and to be who I want to be. 

I have an even better idea. Why wait?  I may as well start now. Without foregoing the role of parenting, I am free to live my life fully now. Middle age has got me wide-eyed and bushy-tailed. I get to use this zig zag life of mine and all of its unique experiences to expand. In fact, I like it; I am older, better, wiser, and quite ripe for something new. 

Of my nuanced life, I’ve have often been an independent correspondent and commentator. Thankfully, people have read my work and listened.  As a communicator, I now desire to reach more people, locally, nationally, and internationally. 

The scholar in me wants to educate through creative, traditional, and non-traditional methods as well as in new environments. Through internet technology and Social Media, I want to bring the cultural arts, interesting places, and Human Interest stories to a broader audience.  I want my literary and scholarly work published in books.  

I belong among people, in the thick of things, or as a window into places people may never themselves ever go. As you might imagine, I envision attracting an opportunity I cannot resist. One that is just for me.  

Being middle age has taught me to live in the present tense and to embrace who I am.  I prefer my life with vivid colors (like orange) and spice (like diversity). I am inclined to the way of trailblazer and tend to skip along roads less traveled. I am subject to be in unlikely places, unearthing untold stories, and being where the action is. Grounded in who I am, I color outside the lines. Then, I like to connect the dots. 

Spirit is my guide and innovation is my method; Love is my language and life is my muse. I am that I am and it is what it is.   

Therefore consider this:  Hire me. Send me. Collaborate with me. Invite me.  Contract me. Publish me. Book me. Cast me. Make me a line item on your budget.  Pay me. Tell somebody about me. Recommend me. Seek me out. Ask me. Bring an offer.  

As I say yes, I am saying yes to me and to you. As I say yes, my expansion is your expansion. As I say yes, my elevation is your elevation. As I say yes, what is mine is also yours.  I am here now at middle age, alive and well in order to do something new.

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